Everyone needs to vent occasionally. But is complaining helpful and does it work?
Complaining changes the balance of negative/positive energy and for a brief moment at least, we feel better. Its actually a pretty reliable process. Addictive even. Which is a problem (beyond even the wasted time). Like just about all addictions we are feeding the spin of a destructive, never ending cycle.
Life is stressful, and complaining may be considered by many as an extension of being absolutely normal. However complaining affects our brains and our physical health negatively. A sense of sadness or melancholy is increased, along with real dissatisfaction with our daily lives. Negative stress can also make chronic health problems worse. You are also more likely to get headaches, joint pain and depression.
One way of dealing with these symptoms is through learning how to stop useless complaining. And how can you do this i hear you ask
1) Keep moving forward
2) Be responsible
3) Be less judgemental
4) Be assertive
5) Be more mindful
6) Learn to adapt
7) Nourish a positive attitude
The good news is that you can train your brain to stop complaining. This goal is possible to accomplish in a short space of time.
Another important step is defining why you are complaining. Take a step back to really think about what’s bothering you. Is there a valid reason for the complaint? Are you complaining merely for the sake of complaining? Is there an action you can take to resolve the problem?
There will always be something to complain about. But next time you are stressed take a step back, inhale and laugh. Remember who you are and why you are here. You are never given anything in this world that you can not handle. Be strong, be flexible.
Love yourself and love others. Always remember just keep moving forward!