No one wants to do things that are difficult or a struggle or outside of our comfort zones. So we tend to self sabotage.
Some of the signs of self sabotage are:
1) Procrastination- which is the action of delaying or postponing something.
2) Breaking promises to yourself.
3) Refusing to seek support, even when you know you need it.
4) Prioritising comfort over progress.

All of these things are self betrayal, because we convince ourselves that we do not want the things that are really important to us. We then turn to self medicating with things like food, drugs and alcohol, as ways of comforting ourselves.
In the moment it may seem small but the self medicating adds up and changes the way we feel and behave. Once we lose trust in our own words and our own promises, we then lose our confidence and we lose hope. We then stop even trying to begin to make changes.
So what can we do about this?
Start by making one small promise to yourself today, and then make it your absolute priority to keep it. That will start a new habit of keeping your promise to yourself.
Let me know how you get on.